Navigating the Holidays for Children in Foster Care

The holiday season is a time of joy and togetherness for many, but for children in foster care, it can be a challenging period marked by feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and separation. This year, hundreds of children in Douglas County will spend the holiday season away from the home, family, and traditions they know. As we approach the holidays, let's explore the unique challenges faced by children in foster care and the vital role Court Appointed Special Advocates (CASAs) play in providing support not just during the holiday but throughout their time in care.

Navigating Unfamiliar Traditions:

Foster children often find themselves in new households with different traditions, which can be overwhelming. Foster families can help by keeping kids well-informed about holiday plans, inviting them to share their positive family traditions, and incorporating them into celebrations. It's essential to create an inclusive environment and be understanding if children are hesitant to participate initially.

Managing Feelings of Separation:

The holidays intensify feelings of separation for foster children, as they long to be with their biological families. Foster families can support them by facilitating safe connections with loved ones, acknowledging the significance of family during this season, and maintaining an empathetic approach. CASA advocates can play a crucial role in ensuring these connections are facilitated appropriately.

Addressing Feelings of Loss and Grief:

Separation from their biological families during the holidays can evoke profound feelings of fear, grief, and loss in foster children. Foster families should create an open and supportive space for children to express their emotions. CASA advocates, with their unique position in the child's life, can offer additional emotional support and help ensure the child's best interests are prioritized.

Acknowledging the Complexity of Emotions:

Sometimes, the safety and positivity of a foster family environment can trigger conflicting emotions in foster children, especially during the holidays. Foster families and CASA advocates alike should be understanding and allow children to process their feelings. Open-ended questions can be a helpful tool to encourage communication, providing an opportunity for children to express their emotions.

As we celebrate the holiday season, let's remember the children in foster care who may be grappling with complex emotions. Foster families and CASA advocates can work hand-in-hand to provide the support, understanding, and empathy these children need during this sensitive time. By incorporating inclusive practices, facilitating connections with loved ones, and acknowledging the unique challenges foster children face, we can make a meaningful difference in their lives and contribute to a brighter holiday season for all. CASA of Douglas County remains committed to being a beacon of support and advocacy for these deserving children throughout their entire journey to find a safe and forever home.